Monthly Archives: August 2023

Fulfilling life goals and bucket list dreams

Posted by on

I don’t have a bucket list. But I did set four big broad life goals for myself about 10 years ago. They are doing work I like at a more manageable pace, travelling more, spending time with family, and having fun friends that I spend time with. Happy to say, I’m meeting these goals fairly well at this point.

My sister does have a bucket list. About 6 months after she lost her husband to cancer last year, she was still trying to figure out how much travel she was willing to do with family and friends. She mentioned to my husband and I that seeing the national parks was on her bucket list. My husband jumped on the idea and proposed a multi-week road trip itinerary to three parks – Yellowstone, Grand Tetons, and Glacier. My sister was in! Together they worked out the details and booked all the places we’ll stay – whether it’s one night while continuing to our park destinations or several nights near each of those parks.

That trip is happening now. My sister has been my best friend for as long as I can remember – she is only 16 months older than me. My husband and I have been best friends since the mid-1970s. I know the three of us will have a great time with lots of laughs and deep conversations as we traverse the miles together and take in the incredible scenery. She can check it off her bucket list and I’ll be meeting two of my big goals. Nothing wrong with that!

There is no “so what” to this post other than to encourage you to stay focused on your bucket list or life goals. I wish you all a happy end to the summer and hope you too have carved out some time for R&R with family and friends these past few months.

Related Posts:

Vacation season reminders for a more balanced life

4 tips when you must work on vacation

Take time to reboot

Do you know your big rocks?

The 6 R’s of summer

Nana Camp Chronicles: year 2 insights and adventures

Posted by on

We held our second Nana Camp last week. Given how well it went (despite my husband and I being exhausted by Friday night), I think we’ll make it an annual event in the summer. Last year I wrote about our first one in my post “Leadership lessons from nana camp”. The rules we agreed on (pictured in that post) hung on our refrigerator until a few months ago when my husband went on a purging spree. Good thing I have a record here so we could revisit and decide on new/revised rules for this year.

Two (ages 10 and 8) of the four grandkids had their first away/overnight camps this year having attended Girl Scout camp. So, they came to Nana Camp with a new perspective. My daughter suggested that the 10-year-old could be a Counselor in Training (CIT) when we were last together as a family on Father’s Day. I wasn’t quite ready for that but I’m a fan of delegation! Not sure what a CIT would mean for us but as a start that day, she wrote down the list of ideas for this year and what they liked from last year. That list of course was put on the refrigerator door. We used it at our camp “orientation” session Monday morning to plan and vote on activities for the week.

The other two (ages 8 and 7) have been to day camps that are mornings only and gotten used to making their own lunches at home while their parents work in their home offices. Love hearing that! Means they all are capable of it and that I could expect them to do more for themselves at breakfast and lunch.

Together on Monday we agreed on activities for the week and what the rules would be. We also talked about their lessons from last year – mainly not to have stupid fights about everything – who sits by who at dinner, who sits by who in the car, who gets the first shower, who walks which dog – you get it! And of course, they are one year older and that much more mature!

Here is this year’s complete list of rules – a slight variation on last year with few additions: Continue reading →

Healthcare as a right in more progressive countries   

Posted by on

I wasn’t going to write anything this week since my husband and I just returned from an 18-day trip with Road Scholar – The 4 Nordic Capitals. We spent 3-4 days in each – Copenhagen, Oslo, Stockholm, and Helsinki. It was everything I had hoped it would be! But no one hopes for jet lag and feeling like a zombie the first day or two back.

So, on day 2 of re-entry, I was up very early after too short a night’s sleep as my body adjusts to the 7-hour time difference. Why not start writing? I learned so much on the trip and have lots to share in due time. No question that we can learn a lot from these progressive Nordic countries – Denmark, Norway, Sweden, and Finland.

I visited three of these capital cities when we were on a cruise in the Baltic Sea in 2018. But having only 6-8 hours in a port is nothing like immersing yourself for a few days and really learning about the country – their history, political structure, culture, social services, technology, and more.

A day with a Road Scholar tour like this includes a 1-2 hour lecture from the local guide or an outside expert and then guided tours to a variety of sites with usually some free time late afternoon to explore on your own.

Let’s start with how progressive they are. I could start from various angles – a strong focus on sustainability, extensive public transportation infrastructure, free education through the university level, lengthy required maternity/paternity leaves, and of course their healthcare system.

From my lecture notes, here are a few data points I captured on healthcare:

In Finland, healthcare is not completely free but pretty close. Prescriptions are subsidized and you pay a maximum of 700 euro in a year ($769.37 using today’s conversion rate). Think about the people you know in the U.S. who are paying thousands a month for just one critical prescription. Hospitalization is 49 euro a day regardless of what it is for ($53.86 using today’s conversion rate). Think about people in the U.S. who have to declare medical bankruptcy due to hospital bills or deplete their life savings for nursing home care. (A 2015 study by the Kaiser Family Foundation found that medical bills caused 1 million U.S. adults to declare bankruptcy every year and that 26% of Americans aged 18 to 64 struggle to pay medical bills. Medical bankruptcy is almost unheard of outside the U.S.)

In Sweden medical care is free until you are 19 years old and dental care is free until you are 24. For medical care you pay $25 per visit or procedure. After a maximum of $720 per year you don’t pay. (Local guide spoke in dollars vs euros for us).

Yes, people in these countries have high tax rates but their dollars go to services for the entire population. Healthcare is just one example – they truly believe healthcare is a right with every citizen having equal access to services.

More to come on lessons from the Nordic countries in future weeks….