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Grateful for the love of family, savoring the moments

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What can I say at Thanksgiving this year that is new and unique? How about the fact that two of the biggest birds I’ve ever seen flew by my home office window yesterday? You guessed it, they were wild turkeys. Yes, we live in a more rural area now. In fact, last year while the dogs and I watched two wild turkeys strut along behind our townhouse (you can imagine what the dogs thought….lot of yelping through the window), my husband who was on a conference call later told me he saw a third one up in a tree wondering how it got there and not looking very elegant as it tried to get out.

On the turkey cooking front, we had to cook ours yesterday, two days in advance with a plan to reheat it on Thanksgiving when the family arrives. Why? There were no frozen turkeys at the store and buying a fresh one 4 days in advance we have learned is too far – google says cook within a day or two. Guess that’s my health angle for this post – not serving my family old fowl that will make them sick, and my technology angle – depending on the power of google to ask any question and get an answer. The downside is when everyone arrives, we won’t have that wonderful turkey cooking in the oven fragrance throughout the house. There’s an idea for a candle maker! But the upside is more room in the single oven to reheat the side dishes our daughters are bringing.

I’ve said to a few people that we’re ready for plenty of chaos as the six adults will be outnumbered by our four grandkids and three dogs including a very active 7-month-old puppy that is bigger than both our 3- and 14-year-old little dogs. But it will be wonderful, loving, family chaos. The best kind!

10 years ago on Thanksgiving I was on baby watch. I had just moved to Ann Arbor for my new CIO job and was living alone for 9 weeks. My first grandchild was due any day out in California. Continue reading →

How daily life has changed

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Whether you live in a state with strict stay at home orders from your governor or are still going about your life with few adjustments other than social distancing and more frequent hand washing, your life has changed.

You may be an essential worker reporting to your workplace each day or adapting the best you can to working from home or fearing a layoff or already out of a job at this point.

You may have elder parents living with you or other family members with health issues that make them high risk.

Regardless, your life has changed. The fears, uncertainty, anger, sadness, exhaustion, confusion, and so many other emotions and feelings are real. We all have them.

Self-care is important for all of us. As a CIO/CMIO colleague keeps telling his team, it’s a marathon not a sprint. The image I used this week is one of my favorites shared on Facebook by Brooke Anderson, a photographer in California. It’s a good reminder of how we need to take care of ourselves..

Here’s what my daily life looks like now:

  • Staying at home: My husband and I haven’t been anywhere in 2 weeks except for when I picked up takeout at a local restaurant over a week ago.
  • Working from home: Splitting time between our StarBridge Advisors business and work with a health system client on a variety of projects.
  • Exercise: Walking our two little dogs and trying to get 10K steps each day keeping appropriate social distance with all the other walkers. There is a joy in seeing the spring flowers and buds on trees change each day – gives me hope!
  • Family connection: Talking to my sister in Minnesota where I grew up and where all my three siblings and their families live. Keeping in touch with my daughters and their changed lives. One daughter is a Nurse Practitioner who will soon be caring for COVID-19 patients while her husband adapts to working full-time from home and their 3 and 5-year-old kids play together. The other daughter was already working from home; her husband is adapting to working from home while their first grader is doing the eLearning school program and their 5-year-old plays.
  • Sharing resources: It’s hard to not be in the thick of it knowing what healthcare organizations are going through and how IT teams are working hard to support them. I’m channeling that energy into supporting Bill Russell and “This Week in Health IT” with a growing number of free COVID-19 resources for health IT teams.
  • Social media with a purpose: I try to share what is most informative and useful as well as positive and motivating.
  • Managing how much news I watch: On my busiest workdays I only watch at night. On more flexible days, I get snippets mid-day. In the spirit of being positive, I will say that the leadership demonstrated by New York Governor Andrew Cuomo is the leadership we need at all levels of government – fact based, informed, action oriented, and empathic.

And as the days blend together, the weekly routine now includes a couple new things. We gratefully receive grocery delivery that our nearby daughter has helped coordinate. We do a weekly family video call where the four grandkids stick their face right up to the camera and call out to their cousins then eventually go play so the six adults can talk and check in with each other. And we make a quiet moment to do Sunday online church which are YouTube messages from our ministers that we can watch anytime.

No matter what your days look like now, practice self-care. There are many resources out there to support you. The latest This Week in Health IT podcast – “Mental Wellness During Crisis” with Dana Udall PhD, Chief Clinical Officer at Ginger is definitely worth listening to.

Whatever you might fear or feel inconvenienced by during this pandemic, think about the healthcare workers who like firemen run into the burning building, not away from it. They are going to work so we can stay home. They and all the essential workers who are keeping things running are the true heroes. To them I say thank you, be safe and well. To all of you, take care of yourself and those you love. We will get through this – together.

With Gratitude

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I was struck by the recent Becker’s Hospital Review article highlighting healthcare CEO messages of thanks to their staff. I saw gratitude, humility, commitment, servant leadership and a true passion for what we do in healthcare and how we serve our communities. Jim Hinton, CEO of Baylor Scott & White Health (Dallas) said Thanksgiving is his favorite holiday because the focus is not on gifts but rather on thanks. He quoted John F. Kennedy who said, “We must find time to stop and thank the people who make a difference in our lives.” So true. And so important.

I am thankful for my family who are my “big rocks”. My husband, Tom, has been my best friend for over 45 years. My daughters, Katie and Ann, now have families of their own. We all get along and live close enough to see each other often. My grandkids who I fondly call the “fab four” bring energy and fun to every get together. And I am thankful for my siblings and their families who I do my best to keep in touch with halfway across the country.

I am thankful to my StarBridge Advisors colleagues, David Muntz and Russ Rudish, who started this adventure with me three years ago. And I am grateful for the talented team of advisors who have chosen to work with us and to all the healthcare organizations who have trusted us enough to hire us as interim leaders, advisors and leadership coaches the past few years.

I am thankful for my team at the University of Vermont Health Network where I have served as interim Chief Technology Officer since late May. I am grateful to everyone who is part of “team Epic” and worked so hard to ensure a successful go live a few weeks ago. The staff who worked many 12-hour shifts, the operational leaders who partnered with IT, and all the users who were patient with us as we diligently fixed issues.

I am thankful to all my health IT colleagues across the industry who I continue to learn from and who help make me a better person.

And I am thankful that I work in an industry that makes a difference in peoples’ lives every single day.

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Widen the circle

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Thanksgiving is often that day when we gather with family and friends, eat too much, maybe argue over politics, watch a lot of football, and generally have a good time being in the presence of people we carecanstockphoto21096824 (1) starts with you about. It’s that day when families widen their circle, make room at an already crowded table for friends and friends of friends who have no family nearby to be with.

I remember the last several Thanksgivings well. They represent our growing family.

Two of them were in Ann Arbor on long distance “baby watch”. In 2012, I was on my own having just started a new CIO position at Michigan Medicine. I was anxiously awaiting the call from our daughter in California to say she’d gone into labor and that I should get a ticket and fly out. It was our first grandchild. The plan was to help her out for the first week when they came home from the hospital. A couple I had met at church invited me to join their family on Thanksgiving as I waited. Two years later our second grandchild was due in Boston. Our best friends in Ann Arbor graciously invited my husband and I to join their family for Thanksgiving dinner as we waited for that call.

2013 was the only time we had our family at our Ann Arbor house – they travelled from both coasts for Thanksgiving. We also celebrated our grandchild’s first birthday together that long holiday weekend. And for my football fan son-in-law who grew up wanting to play for the University of Michigan, I bought tickets for everyone to go to the Michigan-Ohio game at the big house. A year to remember!

Over the next few years we became part of our Boston area daughter’s big extended family of in-laws. Now that my husband and I live in New England again and our California daughter and son-in-law live nearby, we have all been welcomed into the Boston area clan at the holidays. This Thanksgiving we were again part of that family but on a smaller scale. Continue reading →